Posts in Emotion Focused Therapy
Ask a Psychologist: What are the Differences between Shame and Guilt? How to manage these painful emotions?

Shame can be a deeply ingrained and highly unpleasant emotion for many adults. The feeling of shame often begins and develops in our childhoods.  It can be overlapping and conflated with the emotion of guilt or embarrassment. Shame is more intense and destructive in that it requires a strongly negative self-evaluation.   

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Ask a Psychologist: What is Emotional Intellectualisation?

Something happens that hits us hard, instead of sitting with those feelings, we find ourselves breaking down in our head exactly why it occurred, providing a rational explanation to the distress. Maybe we are listing all the logical reasons why a relationship ended rather than acknowledging the heartbreak. Or perhaps we are researching statistics about job loss instead of feeling the anxiety and disappointment.

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